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Doing away with default decisions: the power of community deathcaring + FREE DOWNLOAD

Dear reader,  If your 90-year-old Aunt Bettina died tomorrow, there’s a pretty predictable pattern for what would happen  next and how she’d be taken care of—unless, that is, you understand the scope of choices available to you, including, caring for your own.  There’s a good chance Aunt Betttina witnessed community deathcaring as a young girl,…
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‘Tis the season to remember our dead
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‘Tis the Season to Remember Our Dead

I yearn for more remembering and honouring the dead in my life. I feel enlivened and inspired when I reflect on the relationship, lineage and opportunity that I’ve been gifted by those who’ve come before and died before me.

What's Love Got To Do With It?
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What’s Love Got to Do With It?

In the Jewish tradition the mourners are a distinct group. They are the parents, children, siblings and spouse of the deceased. At the funerals I went to while growing up in Montreal, the mourners sat in a special section upfront near the closed casket and the rabbi. I remember feeling envious of them in a…
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Oh, How I Love a Good Funeral!

In honour of Donald Edward Grayston, 1939 – 2017. About the only thing worse than experiencing the death of someone you care about, is doing it without the the kind of good-bye rituals that truly reflect their essence. Fortunately, I knew this would not be the case when our dear friend Don Grayston died last month.

The Greenest way to "go" - the positive impact of a Green Burial
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Green Burial: the greenest way to “go”

When I was on the path to becoming a licensed funeral director, I was on fire with a sense of possibility. I imagined that I would be a hip, eco-friendly funeral-service provider appealing to people like me — someone who appreciates beauty, walks lightly on the earth and tries to make the world a better…
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No, I will not get rid of you.

My first and last encounter with Mrs. X was in the cooler. Mrs. X was a widow who died in hospital with her devoted son and daughter-in-law at her side. From her hospital room she was taken to the hospital morgue. With her son’s permission, she was then transferred from the morgue to the refrigeration…
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