Departure Directions

Articulate how you wish to be cared for after you die—based on your values, beliefs and priorities—with Willow’s free tools and empowering workshops on Departure Directions.

Maybe you’ve experienced the overwhelm and frustration of arranging a goodbye ritual (funeral, celebration of life, wake, etc) for someone who didn’t leave any directions. You’ve struggled with trying to honour what you think were their wishes and meet the needs of those left behind, including you. You don’t want this to happen when you die, but you don’t know what you can do about it.

Your Departure Directions is a planning tool that provides specific or general guidance regarding what you want and don’t want to happen after your death, and what choices you would prefer to leave to other people. It includes how your body will be cared for and by whom, how you will be laid to rest, who you would like to be involved, and what rituals, if any, will be carried out.

All that matters in the end is what matters now.

It’s our conviction that you can honour your own values as well as the wishes of important people in your life. Completing your Departure Directions will give you peace of mind that your instructions will reflect who you are and what matters most to you, while alleviating stress, chaos and worry for the people you leave behind.

In becoming empowered to make choices about how you want to be cared for after you die, you’ll deepen your curiosity about the mystery and potential beauty of death. Writing your Departure Direction is an expedition into all that matters in the end, and therefore all that matters now.

This free tool provides a template from which you can build your Departure Directions. The nine headings will ensure that you consider all aspects of your after-death care, including sharing the news of your death, roles for your loved ones to make it meaningful for them, expenses and logistics and more.

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Read blog posts about Departure Directions

What About the Last Responders?

Until just weeks ago, the hard work, dedication and sacrifice of the bereavement industry, or death trade as it’s sometimes called, wasn’t even listed as an essential service. Despite this recent shift in designation, I suspect there’s little or no applause or acknowledgement for the essential workers like the ones named by our provincial government: coroners and workers performing mortuary services, including: funeral homes, crematoriums, cemeteries and workers supporting the appropriate handling, identification, storage, transportation, and certification of human remains.

3 Reasons to Talk About How Your Dead Are Laid to Rest

When someone we care about is dying, family and friends are often kept in the loop via text or email or a community-care app or website. The person dies and if we’re lucky there’s a gathering of sorts to bring people together to honour, remember, mourn and celebrate this person we must now live without.  …
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Back to Basics: Caring for Our Own

If your 90-year-old Aunt Bettina died tomorrow, there’s a pretty predictable pattern for what would happen next and how she’d be taken care of—unless, that is, you understand the scope of choices available to you, including, caring for your own.  There’s a good chance Aunt Bettina witnessed community deathcaring as a young girl, whether she…
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