Doing Away with Default Decisions:
The power of community deathcaring + FREE DOWNLOAD
If your 90-year-old Aunt Bettina died tomorrow, there’s a pretty predictable pattern for what would happen next and how she’d be taken care of—unless, that is, you understand the scope of choices available to you, including, caring for your own.
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Making Sense of Life & Death
Legacy, Love Letters + Heart Wills
There are many ways Catherine’s life has changed by working through WILLOW’s curriculum for writing Love Letters and a Heart Will. The exploration brought her and some friends together to delve into the scope of their personal feelings about the fact that someday and they don’t know when, they are each going to die and whether they are intentional about it or not, they each will leave a legacy. They soon discovered or confirmed who and what matter most in their lives.read more
Sarah attended our first of six Reality of our Mortality Learning Circles at the end of last month and gave me permission to share how exploring love and sorrow in this safe, open-hearted community was exactly what she needed.read more
When we know those we love well, we can honour their essence in life and in death. It’s my belief, that this honouring of another at the time of their death plays a key role in our own healing journey.read more
When you think about that inevitable day when your life as you know it will come to an end, you probably hope you’ll have a good death, right? But what does that mean? In our workshops we often bring our awareness to the reality of our shared mortality by asking...read more
Sitting in the middle of my fridge, amidst summer-activity registration forms, a list of school supplies and a smattering of photos, is a new copy of an old photo. The photo is of my Dad’s dad’s family: my great grandparents and their eleven children, the Pante clan...read more
Can we heal the dying? How to heal the dying was a question that weaved through many sessions at the recent BC Hospice and Palliative Care Association (BCHPCA) Conference that Michelle and I attended. The conference shined a light on the incredible work that so many...read more
While I’ve been known as someone who generously serves others, I’ve been stingy lately, resisting taking time away from my parenting and daughtering duties or the time I could be building my business. Recently I had my first solo “Sit with Don” visit at his place....read more
When you die, how will your absence affect the people, places and things in your world? That is one of a half-dozen questions that WILLOW uses as a warm-up exercise before people dive into writing their Heart Will. For those of you who've perused the WILLOW website,...read more
When was the last time you heard or used the word funeral? Not, celebration of life, not memorial service but funeral? Ahhh, not so much these days in our increasingly secular world. And when was the last time you said, “So and so is dead” or even more rare, “So and...read more