Departure Directions

Doing Away with Default Decisions: 

The power of community deathcaring + FREE DOWNLOAD

If your 90-year-old Aunt Bettina died tomorrow, there’s a pretty predictable pattern for what would happen  next and how she’d be taken care of—unless, that is, you understand the scope of choices available to you, including, caring for your own.

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Making Sense of Life & Death

Legacy, Love Letters + Heart Wills

Departure Directions

Giving the Love You Want

Sandra wrote her sister an, “I love and cherish you and want to be sure you know this in case one of us dies suddenly” kind of letter. The results were unexpected and left Sandra realizing she could give her love freely and generously to her sister—and anyone, really— and that giving love generously, without expecting anything in return, feels great.

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Mary Oliver, Mortality and Meaning Making

Mary Oliver’s words speak to my yearning to make this life—my life—matter. My desire to live a life with meaning calls me to reflect, to contemplate and to get clear about who and what matter.
The thing is, and maybe you relate here, I find it very hard to create time and space for this type of discernment. Believe it or not, planning for my inevitable death, helps create that time and space.

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