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Honour, Healing and a Bed of Cedar Boughs

When we know those we love well, we can honour their essence in life and in death. It’s my belief, that this honouring of another at the time of their death plays a key role in our own healing journey.

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What a Good Death is Not

When you think about that inevitable day when your life as you know it will come to an end, you probably hope you’ll have a good death, right? But what does that mean? In our workshops we often bring our awareness to the reality of our shared mortality by asking people to name their hopes…
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Remembering Amid the Everyday

Sitting in the middle of my fridge, amidst activity registration forms, schedules and a smattering of photos, is a new copy of an old photo. The photo is of my Dad’s dad’s family: my great grandparents and their eleven children, “la famiglia Pante” from the town of Lamon, in province of Belluno, in the Veneto…
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Dying and the Medicine of Healing Relationships

Can we heal the dying? How to heal the dying was a question that weaved through many sessions at the recent BC Hospice and Palliative Care Association (BCHPCA) Conference that Michelle and I attended. The conference shined a light on the incredible work that so many people do as their vocation, as volunteers, and as…
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To serve or be served?
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To Serve and Be Served

While I’m generally known as someone who generously serves others, I’ve been stingy lately, resisting taking time away from my parenting and daughtering duties or the time I could use to build our business. Recently I had my first solo “Sit with Don” visit at his place.  Don, as Reena wrote about in a previous…
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Questioning ourselves to death
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Death, Your Pathway to Personal Discovery

When you die, how will your absence affect the people, places and things in your world? Whether you have days or decades left to live, end-of-life planning can be a pathway to live your life to its fullest. By asking yourself some thought-provoking, juicy questions, you’ll gain heightened or fresh awareness about your core values…
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Are funerals dead?
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Are Funerals Dead?

When was the last time you heard or used the word funeral? Not, celebration of life, not memorial service but funeral? Ahhh, not so much these days in our increasingly secular world.   And when was the last time you said, “So and so is dead” or even more rare, “So and so is dying?”…
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How to Live Until You Die

Passing on messages to guide future generations is at least as old as the Old Testament. Jacob, one of the Torah’s patriarchs, orally passed on values to his sons, reflected on some of their behaviours and traits, and made some predictions about their future. His lasting messages were, in essence, oral Love Letters.   At the…
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Unpacking Green Burial

When I was on the path to becoming a licensed funeral director, I was on fire with a sense of possibility. I imagined that I would open a hip, eco-friendly funeral home appealing to people like me — someone who appreciates beauty, walks lightly on the earth and tries to make the world a better…
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