Author Archives for michelle pante

Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and Mourning the Living

May 11, 2021 12:00 pm Published by 16 Comments

The ache that permeates my body is not that of being an adult orphan. I still have the blessing of holding a warm hand and sharing a smile with each of my folks. My biological parents, both in their 80s, are here on earth and we live in the same city. I see Mom, with Dad, every Wednesday and I also see Dad every weekend. I also talk to him—many times a day—depending on what’s up.

Ways to Honour Your Loved Ones this Holiday Season

December 15, 2020 1:23 am Published by 2 Comments

As you may know from Reena’s recent blog post, Momento Mori and Don’t Forget to Live, my vibrant 82-year-old mother-in-law with whom we shared our home of 12.5 years, died suddenly a month ago. It was yet another reminder of the constant presence of life and death, and how unpredictable the human experience is.

How Grief Gave Me My Life Back

October 19, 2020 9:17 pm Published by 4 Comments

Do you too have life lessons that keep showing up—same message, different day? One of the recurring messages in my life is that grief is a pathway to healing. Actually, let me rephrase that. My recent experience of fall-on-my-knees grief revealed, once again, that grief is a pathway to living and loving fully.

What About the Last Responders?

May 12, 2020 8:09 pm Published by 6 Comments

Until just weeks ago, the hard work, dedication and sacrifice of the bereavement industry, or death trade as it's sometimes called, wasn’t even listed as an essential service. Despite this recent shift in designation, I suspect there’s little or no applause or acknowledgement for the essential workers like the ones named by our provincial government: coroners and workers performing mortuary services, including: funeral homes, crematoriums, cemeteries and workers supporting the appropriate handling, identification, storage, transportation, and certification of human remains.