There was a time when I thought that death acceptance was the opposite of death denial. I also thought that there were two signs of death denial: fear of death and dying, and strong attachments to life and living. My thinking was that if I didn’t have fear and anxiety about death, and I could sever my strong attachments in life, I would live peacefully with the full acceptance of death.
The global pandemic has resulted in a tough year for most of us. Faced with so much loss, grief and mental-health challenges, the world is looking forward to closing the chapter on 2020. What if we put this year to rest, like we lay a loved one to rest?
I was inspired by the list of 15 things Michelle crafted in honour of her late mother-in-law. Reading it, I thought: this is a great exercise no matter what our relationship is with the deceased. With that in mind, I’m putting 2020 to rest with the following list of things I learned over the course of the year.
15 Things I Learned from 2020 (For Which I’m Grateful)
- Dying flowers are as beautiful as the ones in full bloom.
- My neighbourhood is spectacular in every season.
- I don’t like swimming in a wetsuit.
- There are so many different kinds of trees in my neighbourhood.
- Having fewer options of what I can do with my time can be freeing.
- The more time I spend with fewer people the deeper those relationships get.
- Routine can be comforting.
- I feel best when I eat simple, whole, and plant-based food.
- Meditation is critical to my health and wellbeing.
- Staying connected even when we’re not physically together is possible.
- Zoom break-out rooms are awesome.
- Uncertainty and fear are portals for growth and discovery.
- The source of grief is our fear of being separate human beings.
- Granting space and time for the grieving process is the pathway to love.
- We really are all connected.
With all my love,
Reena (+ Michelle)
What about you?
What are some valuable life lessons you learned from 2020 (for which you are grateful)?
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