We hope you had a chance to read our previous newsletter and blogpost Deathcare: Not just another retail transaction. In it you had the opportunity to fill in a short survey about an online course we’re developing to guide you to write your Departure Directions: Our term for your written instructions or guidelines—determined by your values, beliefs and priorities—for how you wish to be cared for and remembered after you die. 

As a gift for filling out the survey, we offer you our tool called, Ten Things to Include in your Departure Directions. So If you haven’t  yet had the chance to fill out the survey and would like our gift, please fill out the survey now. We thank you in advance. Your survey responses will help us to design the course with your needs in mind.

Our end-of-life-planning work always begins with taking time to make sense of life and death. In our Departure Directions workshops for example, you start your journey by articulating your hopes and fears around your inevitable death and the core values that guide your living. We then dive into exploring the factors that can shape your choices for your after-death care and the scope of options that are available to you.  

What we observe with workshop participants, coaching clients, and ourselves is that our insights around our inevitable death and dying are inextricably linked to the life we’re living.

Here’s an illustration of how this shows up for each of us:

For Michelle: After I die, I want my body to be cared for (washed, shrouded, watched over, transported) by people who love me, not a stranger. For me these tender and loving acts are ways of honouring my body for all its service to me during my life. When sharing with a dear friend the other day that I’d gifted myself with the rare occurrence of sleeping in two-days in a row, I noted the contradiction I was living! I’ve declared that I want my body to be honoured after I die yet, I routinely fail to honour my body in the here and now, in this case, by getting enough rest.  

For Reena: Where I get stuck around how I want to be cared for after I die is where I get stuck in my spiritual life. I was raised in a secular Jewish family. While I deeply appreciate many of the Jewish deathcare and mourning practices, I haven’t committed to a Jewish burial because it doesn’t all resonate with me. The ambivalence I have about my after-death care wishes is really about my still-to-be-worked-out relationship to my own spiritual practice and identify.

Resting in peace is as much about life as it is about death.   

Dying and living authentically and in alignment with your values and priorities is an intentional journey. We’re so happy to be travelling this path together.

What about you?

What do your wishes and worries about your after-death care reveal about you and your life?

Please join the discussion below. We’d love to hear from you.

 

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